Eye Openers and Sympathy

Disclaimer: This is pure biased opinion. I may hit some nerves but I am only voicing out my opinion. Feel free to comment as well. 

“Mahirap manggising ng taong gising”

(“It’s hard to wake someone who’s already awake.”)

For someone who has made sleeping a hobby, you would know this. People who pretend to sleep just wouldn’t wake up no matter how hard you nudge them. The same goes with people who cannot allow themselves to see the truth in front of their eyes. Some people may not be oblivious to the truth, but they just can’t accept it or just pretend it isn’t there.

Is Budoy sending the wrong signals? | The Manila Bulletin Newspaper Online.

A week after the article was published, talks surrounding the Budoy TV program still continued. Apparently, the show seemed to have deceived a lot of people.

Most of my colleagues have admitted that parents were asking if the things that happened to the character would also happen to their children. It’s sad to think that a lot of parents have been deceived by the same TV program that originally sought to provide awareness and information to the masses.

I admit though that I have not seen the program to judge it in this manner. In fact, I don’t watch TV at all. Yet the TV program seemed to have affected most of the therapist netizens of the country. Lots of them posted blogs, notes, and statuses on Facebook and other social media regarding the issue. Most of them showing disappointment over the program or relief that somehow someone took notice that the program was not doing what it originally intended to do.

Passing judgment though might not be appropriate since these media giants are also business empires. They are solely driven to earn profits no matter how many times they deny it. To do thus, they’ve allowed their programs to hit the soft spots of the Filipino masses. They produce drama that would really make the people relate to the emotion rather than understand the story or become aware of their supposed cause. They even try to make it cute to attract kids, and adults. Because of a seemingly noble cause and a play on the emotions of people, the program will surely get a huge following despite all the factual and logical errors presented.

What most of my colleagues also forget to see is that the excitement felt at each progress on an individual patient could be limited to the doctors, therapist and the parents alone. Most people might really appreciate the effects, but are ignorant by the number of days or months or years or the process and emotional anxiety it took the therapists, parents and doctors before any progress manifested. Some may not even be as sympathetic as others. Some may simply try to laugh at our every effort. Not everyone has sympathy.

In addition to this, presenting a series which features the things most special children goes through like consulting a doctor, then going to therapy and then progressing after say 3-6 months may not be that appealing to most people. It does promote information but not entertainment. We need to understand that when a regular working person enters the house at the end of an 8 hour work shift, his focus is not to be informed but to be entertained. He or she would rather feel happy over a good comedy series than get overloaded with information. People want entertainment. They lose interest if there’s too much information.

Parallel to this is the impeachment sessions with the senate. While I reserve any opinion on the matter, we could presume that the place and the event is one for the politically and legally knowledgeable. A lot of comments from some of our countrymen revealed that most didn’t understand some of the legal jargon mentioned during the trial. While the coverage gives us an appreciation on how these processes go, we need to admit that the longer we watch, the more information we get. Thus most would just end up losing track of the conversation or the trial.

The danger with films or series that try to raise awareness is that when you pile up information, most people would lose interest. There are very few films or TV series that wherein information was piled beautifully that really made people aware. Not everyone is just that sympathetic or even interested. Not everyone is willing to open their eyes. Most prefer to sleep and live in their own dreamland. We should know how to deal with these. They need as much understanding as everyone else.

In the end, let’s do our jobs as therapists, parents or doctors and try our best to manage our kids. Whether people laugh, mock, or jeer at us doesn’t matter. The joke is always on them because they are the ones who are apathetic to everything that is happening around them. All we have to do is prove them wrong. After all, the loudest cans are usually the empty ones.

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Still More Things I Don’t Understand

I recently saw a video about a woman who was initially diagnosed with a brain tumor. Upon surgery, the doctor couldn’t help but chuckle. The patient would live longer. It wasn’t a brain tumor after all. It was a worm.

While it was good to hear that the woman’s life was not in danger any more, it is scary to think that a worm could convert your brain into its home and enjoy every minute of it while you suffer. The exact nerd term for the worm was not divulged in the report, but it was said to have come from eating half cooked pork or not washing your hands after using the bath room.

I guess the latter would be far fetched. I know and have seen some guys in public restrooms who never washed their hands after doing their thing in the bathroom. I don’t know though if there’s already a colony of worms in their heads, but I guess the former is more likely. We could also say that it might be a one in a thousand occurrence, but the doctor who performed the operation admitted that this woman was not the first case in the past five weeks. This means that many people can have it.

To prevent such case is easily proper hygiene and cooking your food well. Wash your hands well after using the bathroom and cook your pork well or, even better, avoid eating pork at all. I still find it amazing how a worm could climb up to your head. I’ve heard of worms in the stomach, and on the legs, but never on the head or I might not have watched or read that many media for quite a while. I remember the stories used by the elderly to scare you from touching worms on the ground, they said that those worms could enter your skin and live inside your intestines and kill you off. I never touched a worm after that until I got into high school where we used to pick worms from the school garden and throw it at each other.

So how does the worm get into your head? Is it like love that won’t go away unless operated on? Why do fools fall in love?

Imagine the number of things we don’t understand? In the tradition of the first two posts a few years ago,  namely Things I Don’t Understand and More Things I Don’t Understand, here are some of the things I still don’t understand.

  • I don’t understand why some people would try to include their personal agendas, and grudges in a seemingly neutral issue. What’s worse is that some people would try to insist on getting their own way to the extent that other people get hurt and friendships get shattered.
  • I don’t understand why some people habitually spread lies. I could understand how kleptomaniacs can’t help but steal other people’s things without any reason. I could even understand robbers and thieves who live at a knife’s edge because they need to live and they need to survive. But spreading lies and rumors? What do people get from lying? What do benefits do liars get? Is it fun when all it amounts to are strained relationships, broken trust and a wasted life?
  • I don’t understand why some people would prefer to play the blame game. They tend to blame other people, their circumstances, their status in life or any other misfortune that lead to their downfall.  They seem to forget that they should be responsible over what is happening in their lives and the people around them instead of the other way around. Why can’t they blame themselves? Why can’t they just admit their mistakes, say sorry and keep it shut? It could be easier that way.
  • I don’t understand why some people allow themselves to get manipulated that easily. In a similar note, I don’t understand why some people manipulate other people. I have been on both ends whenever I deal with my patients, I get manipulated by some crafty kids and if feels sheepish. I also have manipulated some kids and it sucks life out of you. With kids, it could be easier to understand, but why do full grown adults allow themselves to be controlled by other people and why do other people want to control other people. Can’t we just live interdependently?
  • On a lighter note, I don’t understand how some people’s presence just keeps you going. It’s like whenever you see that person, you just seem to get stronger like you can do anything. They may not say or do anything but occupy a small space in this vast universe but their impact on you is so great, you just can’t help but enjoy their mere presence.

Issues like these are like worms in the head. It hurts like a tumor or a cancer until you remove the worm. Perhaps this just tells us that what happens in a micro scale happens in a similar fashion in more macro set-up. That is, the way an individual person gets sick is similar to the way society gets sick. It happens in small seemingly innocent events but would only reveal itself once the disease has full control of your functions. A cure cannot be found unless the source is extracted.

While prevention is better than cure, could society’s diseases be cured by hygiene and avoidance?

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Facing Forward

After several posts about looking back to what a great year that was, I guessed a post about what the year ahead will be like is in order. I am not a psychic to predict the future neither will I put any resolutions. We tend to say things we never intend to fulfill says our church pastor so promises to do things would be absurd. This would be more like what I would look forward to for this new year and what it has shown me so far.

It is now approximately 10 days into the New Year and things seemed to be revealing themselves little by little.

A few days ago, I was sort of sworn in as the new Youth Ministries head of our church. This has become the biggest challenge so far. Our church is one of the biggest in the metro and being the head of the youth is like leading a small country. I’ve seen the ups and downs up close from the leader before me. Kuya Mike Viernes has seen the best and worst times in his two year tenure as head and I’ve been there beside him all throughout. The same goes with Kuya Jinoe Gavan and, of course my mentor of sorts, Elder Wilson Sia II. I’ve seen them operate. I’ve seen the programs that they’ve conceptualized. I’ve been into most of them as well. Yet, I can’t seem to see myself filling their shoes. Ever since, I’ve been more like a gopher, someone most people would order around to do things. I’ve never imagined myself to be at the top. Yet, here I am. I really don’t know what to do.

10 ministries and counting. It is called the Youth Ministries because it is a conglomeration of ministries sponsored or operated by young people from 16 to 35 years of age. This is not including the small groups and the classes. Imagine the numbers. In the past retreats, more or less 60 people would join and even more would like to express their desire of joining if it were not for conflicts with the schedules. I wanted these ministries and small groups to have some sort of synergy and cooperation. Everyone knowing at least knows some people from other groups. Not just the prominent ones, everyone get to sympathizing with and sharing each others’ burdens.

For starters, the burden does not rest on the head alone. I have to pick out people who could share it with me. This includes the past leaders. I was behind them during their time, I know for sure they’re behind me today. Before the year ended, I also picked out people and formed committees who would help me out with the tasks at hand. They are people who I know would do anything for God’s work and would give me more than adequate inspiration to keep going even if things took a wrong turn.  I pray that things will look brighter with them around.

With that settled, I look forward to big changes in my life. I don’t know how I suddenly woke up realizing that I needed to change my looks and make myself more “marketable” according to some of my YM friends. I guess I still owe it to that certain someone I didn’t mention in my previous post. I wanted to look cleaner and younger yet still maintain that modesty that God wants for us. I don’t want to be caught wearing things that would make me look like from a gangster movie or something like that. I don’t know what I want to look like really. I just wanted to look nice and comfortable.

I guess losing weight was part of it. Then comes the hair. Our youth pastor even commented that basing on the pictures from high school, my hair style never changed. This was probably why my classmates would say that I didn’t change ever since high school. With a change in weight, and in hairstyle, I need to change wardrobe. My clothes right now are all baggy and loose. I’d look like someone from a hip-hop group even in my formal clothes. I needed something slim fit and edgy. My sisters were there to help. I just hope they are right. After the weight, the hair and the wardrobe, I’m not sure if there should be a change in outlook or behavior. Probably. Maybe. Do I really have to?

There are a lot of things I really look forward to for this year. One of them is a love life. Like the interest in being aesthetically appropriate, I just woke up one day to realize that I needed someone special in life. I guess with this one, I’d let God handle it. I don’t know which direction I’d go yet. One thing is for sure though, I’ll wait for the Leader’s command.

Again, I expect myself to post more insight with all my blogs this year. I hope that I could improve as a writer and learn a new craft as well. Whichever it is, I’m sure it’s something that could be used in the Lord’s work.

For this year, I look forward to getting closer to God, keeping in close touch with Him all through out my life.

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