It’s now 1:00AM and I am still up. Probably it’s part of the celebration for the early start of the Halloween break for me. Or probably, it’s something else.
I really think it’s something else.
I had this conversation an hour ago. A cousin. A long lost cousin I was very fond of since childhood. Sometimes you don’t have a choice with this fondness thing because sometimes you get to grow up at the same time and at the same place.
So there she was (yes, a she) and her message. Apparently, she was confused and distraught. Her dilemma: “Do guys really get intimidated when girls are overly conservative and goody goody?”
And she picked the wrong person to ask. An even bigger dilemma.
I am as inexperienced as she is.
Aaaarghh. So how do you answer that question?
When I read her message, I wanted to kneel down and cry out loud to the heavens for an answer. If it were apples, this might be the golden apples that couldn’t be picked by mortal man.
So do we guys get intimidated? I guess so.
Most guys tend to have big issues with regular friendly girls, what more with those conservative types? Personally, I had trouble telling what I feel to the girl I wanted to get to know. I tried it and failed miserably a few times.
So I admit, I’m a loser.
Turn the tables around and do girls really get intimidated by goody goody and conservative guys? I know, they do. I’ve learned that lesson the hard way.
It was one of those rare times when I was able to muster enough courage to tell someone what I feel. Yet the moment the opportunity comes, wham! I got knocked off by this line: “You’re too kind and good. You deserve someone better.”
I heard an uncle of mine who has the same problem. Maybe it runs in the family.
So now the question leads to, what should the goody-two shoes conservative person do? Should they immediately change and become bad boys or bad girls overnight?
It’s a really big issue to think about. It’s as drastic as deciding who should be the next president or whose turn it was to wash the dishes or who should lock the door at night. It’s like Cinderella. Long time, conservative cleaner turned party girl over a few flicks of the wand from a fairy godmother.
But the question is why? If you’ve been living for several years and was able to get by, graduate college and find a stable career to support your family, why would you go all the way just to hook that supposedly big catch you’d call a partner in life? Why would you do such a thing, when people all around the world has been looking all this time for trustworthy, noble and unshakeable people who can never be bought, sold or tricked into playing friends for sale on facebook?
I believe changing instantly to meet someone for a life partner like some Cinderella is a double edged sword. Your partner gets what he/she/it wants yet you stay miserable. And the world becomes one more miserable for losing some goody goody conservative who could stand up for what is right. In the end, the clock would strike twelve and everything will fall back into the way it used to be and your partner is left with a glass slipper of a memory about the time you became not goody goody enough for him.
Who won? Who lost? How should I know?
You go figure. I need to get some sleep.