FB said this is too long to be a status message. I’m making it into a blog post instead. It’s not the usual but it’s my blog so who cares?
“I’m not asking you to forgive him because what he did wasn’t so terrible; it was terrible. I’m suggesting that you forgive him because he doesn’t deserve to have this power to turn you into a bitter, resentful woman. When he left, he gave up the right to inhabit your life and mind to the degree that you’re letting him. Your being angry at him doesn’t harm him, but it hurts you. It’s turning you into someone you don’t really want to be. Release that anger, not for his sake – he probably doesn’t deserve it – but for your sake so that the real you can reemerge.”
– Rabbi Harold Kusher,
How Good Do We Have To Be?